1.) Music
2.) Warm, running, clean water.
3.) The song: "Closer To My Dreams" by Goapele
4.) Confidence.
5.) My ever burning desire to have peace with my fellow (wo)man.
6.) The movie "Revolver". My all-time fave.
7.) Pastor Robert Morris' lecture on "The Principles of Multiplication" at the Saddleback Church.
8.) My best friend Tiffani Shelby (isn't that name bad a--?)
9.) Laughter.
10.) The dance people do when they get some Garrett popcorn in downtown Chicago. *JIG*
11.) Bringing things in to the light and under inspection... it's a habit of mine.
12.) Lavender essential oil.
13.) JUST GRAPES in the West Loop!!
14.) The latest post on my tumblr blog.
15.) My scars.
16.) Encouraging my fellow females! WOO HOO!
17.) Mr. Robotic. Thanks for checking on me, bro. :-*
18.) My friend Wesley's response to my question of he has ever been heart broken. His answer was 'no'. When I asked, "why?" His answer: "Why would I allow someone that much power is the question!" He's my wise sage.
19.) Bathtubs
20.) L'Occitane products.
21.) Homemade meals.
22.) Looking at old photo albums.
23.) Freshly washed hair.
24.) SOFT/SMOOTH skin! : D
25.) 100% natural products!
26.) Nice public service workers.
27.) Peace.
28.) Prayer. (It's an honor.)
29.) The song: "Our God" by Chris Tomlin
30.) LOVE
31.) The internet.
: )
Friday, September 23, 2011
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
A.M. THM #8
1.) Waking up this morning.
2.) Funny text convos when you're halfway asleep!
3.) Talking to all of my favorite men in like... a 24 hour period!
4.) Getting butt dialed.
5.) Making jokes about how long it's been since you've talked to someone and both people laughing hysterically.
6.) The question: "So, how have you been?" When the person on the other end really wants to know.
7.) My friends who are pursuing their dreams, even if it means moving to another city.
8.) God.
9.) Growing in my faith. : )
10.) Laughter.
11.) My 30-Day Bus Pass! Tried and true!
12.) Taking my love for health and being an instrument in other women's lives to get to their goals!
13.) Options.
14.) The ability to read and comprehend.
15.) My passion to help and build. I'm coming back for you, Englewood, Chicago!
16.) Love in all of its stages.
17.) Prayer. It works!
18.) The hard times. They really do make you better. I prayed that God took me through WHATEVER was necessary for me to be my best. I'm not quite at my best, but I can already see how my testimony is for the greater good!
19.) SMATZES
20.) Making love and happiness WORK.
21.) Victoria's Secret's Cotton Lingerie tee shirts!!!!!!!
22.) A good night's rest.
23.) Clean sheets on the bed! : )
24.) A good glass of wine.
25.) Becoming more of a minimalist day-by-day.
26.) Next fall, when I FINALLY get my own place! : )
27.) Today, tomorrow, next year and my lifetime! (The thought of it can sometimes be unnerving, but it gets me so excited! YAY!!)
28.) All of the "YAY!" that's coming in to my life.
29.) Healthy friendships.
30.) When my co-workers ask me: "Why are you always so happy?" -- Honestly, nothing can get me down. I've seen 'down' and I've been there. At this point, all I can do is go up 'cause I can't go back to that now!!
mazeltov!
2.) Funny text convos when you're halfway asleep!
3.) Talking to all of my favorite men in like... a 24 hour period!
4.) Getting butt dialed.
5.) Making jokes about how long it's been since you've talked to someone and both people laughing hysterically.
6.) The question: "So, how have you been?" When the person on the other end really wants to know.
7.) My friends who are pursuing their dreams, even if it means moving to another city.
8.) God.
9.) Growing in my faith. : )
10.) Laughter.
11.) My 30-Day Bus Pass! Tried and true!
12.) Taking my love for health and being an instrument in other women's lives to get to their goals!
13.) Options.
14.) The ability to read and comprehend.
15.) My passion to help and build. I'm coming back for you, Englewood, Chicago!
16.) Love in all of its stages.
17.) Prayer. It works!
18.) The hard times. They really do make you better. I prayed that God took me through WHATEVER was necessary for me to be my best. I'm not quite at my best, but I can already see how my testimony is for the greater good!
19.) SMATZES
20.) Making love and happiness WORK.
21.) Victoria's Secret's Cotton Lingerie tee shirts!!!!!!!
22.) A good night's rest.
23.) Clean sheets on the bed! : )
24.) A good glass of wine.
25.) Becoming more of a minimalist day-by-day.
26.) Next fall, when I FINALLY get my own place! : )
27.) Today, tomorrow, next year and my lifetime! (The thought of it can sometimes be unnerving, but it gets me so excited! YAY!!)
28.) All of the "YAY!" that's coming in to my life.
29.) Healthy friendships.
30.) When my co-workers ask me: "Why are you always so happy?" -- Honestly, nothing can get me down. I've seen 'down' and I've been there. At this point, all I can do is go up 'cause I can't go back to that now!!
mazeltov!
Friday, September 9, 2011
AM THM #7
1.) I had a dream that my good friend Ray became the President of the company he was working for. He was very excited and looked forward to using some freed up time to pursue his Masters degree and relax.
2.) : )
3.) A nice tall glass of tepid water in the A.M.
4.) Ephesians 3:16-19 That's what I'm on, today.
5.) It's FRIDAY! : ) *Brian Babylon impersonating Rebecca Black on Vocalo 89.5 FM's Morning Amp, voice*
6.) All the remodeling I am going to get done this weekend. : )
7.) How far I've come since 2005.
8.) Good blogs like Nubby Twiglet and Gala Darling.
9.) THIS!
10.) Good dilemma's.
11.) The peace and quiet of morning.
12.) The uproar and buzz of afternoon.
13.) The human body. Such an amazing machine.
14.) Literature.
15.) OPTIONS.
16.) The ability to say, "no," to thing that I don't want, need, or like to do. I think more people need to learn how to say that word.
17.) Being re-tweeted by Andre Iguodala, Zoe Saldana AND Kelly Bensimon within one month's time. I'm not really in to celebrities or status, but I like what Twitter has done to them and for them. : )
18.) Being able to talk with my parents with ALL honesty and even if they judge, cringe, or give me the "you 'stupid' child" look, still feel all the love, compassion and excitement they have for me. They see my potential even when I can't and give me love that I do not deserve. That's that AGAPE love.
@MelissaBillions
2.) : )
3.) A nice tall glass of tepid water in the A.M.
4.) Ephesians 3:16-19 That's what I'm on, today.
5.) It's FRIDAY! : ) *Brian Babylon impersonating Rebecca Black on Vocalo 89.5 FM's Morning Amp, voice*
6.) All the remodeling I am going to get done this weekend. : )
7.) How far I've come since 2005.
8.) Good blogs like Nubby Twiglet and Gala Darling.
9.) THIS!
10.) Good dilemma's.
11.) The peace and quiet of morning.
12.) The uproar and buzz of afternoon.
13.) The human body. Such an amazing machine.
14.) Literature.
15.) OPTIONS.
16.) The ability to say, "no," to thing that I don't want, need, or like to do. I think more people need to learn how to say that word.
17.) Being re-tweeted by Andre Iguodala, Zoe Saldana AND Kelly Bensimon within one month's time. I'm not really in to celebrities or status, but I like what Twitter has done to them and for them. : )
18.) Being able to talk with my parents with ALL honesty and even if they judge, cringe, or give me the "you 'stupid' child" look, still feel all the love, compassion and excitement they have for me. They see my potential even when I can't and give me love that I do not deserve. That's that AGAPE love.
@MelissaBillions
Thursday, September 8, 2011
THM #7
1.) Having a testimony.
2.) That there is such a thing as public education.
3.) Young boys who show good manners to strangers, especially amongst their friends.
4.) Talking to men about women, giving them a peek in to the reality of what we are and how we think.
5.) Random dreams with people that you don't even TALK TO let alone see anymore. Makes me pray for them immediately.
6.) Getting cool, doable, ideas on how to decorate your bedroom or bathroom . . . then buying the paint and accessories, then letting it sit around, then actually doing it, this weekend... lol (hopefully).
7.) The movie, What About Bob? (Yeah, Dad, what about Bob??) lol
8.) Seeing people try their hardest to do better and feeling proud about their efforts.
9.) Telling people about their true potential and they make a step to achieve it because of it. : )
10.) Being Black (African-American, Colored, a Negro... whatever you want to call it. I. AM. PROUD.)
11.) When time passes slowly and you're doing something that you really want to be doing.
12.) My random afternoon pick up today. Suddenly I had a burst of energy and felt really really good this afternoon after lunch.
13.) This 15k coming up in November! I love showing respect to my body by getting active.
14.) MUSIC.
15.) THE NFL!! WOO HOO!!!!!!!! BEAR DOWN!
16.) Saying little prayers for my friends. : )
17.) That tomorrow is FRIDAY!
18.) My mother. What a woman.
19.) Amber at the NARS counter in Macy's on State St. Beautiful girl and has helped me build the BEST make-up "wardrobe".
20.) People who love Chuck Taylors.
21.) Having access to information.
22.) People who have a passion for understanding, clarity and balance. They always get a hard time for standing out, but I think we should encourage them and not try to shut them up.
23.) GOOD SLEEP!
24.) NATURAL HAIR! : )
25.) Packing light. #TEAMminimalism
SWEET DREAMS!
2.) That there is such a thing as public education.
3.) Young boys who show good manners to strangers, especially amongst their friends.
4.) Talking to men about women, giving them a peek in to the reality of what we are and how we think.
5.) Random dreams with people that you don't even TALK TO let alone see anymore. Makes me pray for them immediately.
6.) Getting cool, doable, ideas on how to decorate your bedroom or bathroom . . . then buying the paint and accessories, then letting it sit around, then actually doing it, this weekend... lol (hopefully).
7.) The movie, What About Bob? (Yeah, Dad, what about Bob??) lol
8.) Seeing people try their hardest to do better and feeling proud about their efforts.
9.) Telling people about their true potential and they make a step to achieve it because of it. : )
10.) Being Black (African-American, Colored, a Negro... whatever you want to call it. I. AM. PROUD.)
11.) When time passes slowly and you're doing something that you really want to be doing.
12.) My random afternoon pick up today. Suddenly I had a burst of energy and felt really really good this afternoon after lunch.
13.) This 15k coming up in November! I love showing respect to my body by getting active.
14.) MUSIC.
15.) THE NFL!! WOO HOO!!!!!!!! BEAR DOWN!
16.) Saying little prayers for my friends. : )
17.) That tomorrow is FRIDAY!
18.) My mother. What a woman.
19.) Amber at the NARS counter in Macy's on State St. Beautiful girl and has helped me build the BEST make-up "wardrobe".
20.) People who love Chuck Taylors.
21.) Having access to information.
22.) People who have a passion for understanding, clarity and balance. They always get a hard time for standing out, but I think we should encourage them and not try to shut them up.
23.) GOOD SLEEP!
24.) NATURAL HAIR! : )
25.) Packing light. #TEAMminimalism
SWEET DREAMS!
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
THM #6
1.) That I am not a slave to money, work, or the acceptance of others.
2.) That I am not addicted to anything that is bad for my body/mind/spirit (alcohol, drugs, porn, sex, food, etc.)
3.) That I finally found some 100% pure Jojoba oil for my hair.
4.) That I have a friend who wants to be a minimalist, too! : )
5.) My father.
6.) To live in a country where I am not persecuted for my thoughts, beliefs, sex and gender.
7.) American Apparel. lol
8.) The changing of the seasons! That means I am still here to recognize the familiar face of fall.
9.) To know that if I were to die naturally, I have at LEAST another 40 years of life to: screw up, grow, change, adventure, correct my mistakes, apologize, sing, dance, jump, cry laughing, regret, attempt a handstand AND hear children laugh... before anything goes wrong.
10.) That I have a family that loves me.
11.) This sleep I'm about to get.
#goodNIGHT
2.) That I am not addicted to anything that is bad for my body/mind/spirit (alcohol, drugs, porn, sex, food, etc.)
3.) That I finally found some 100% pure Jojoba oil for my hair.
4.) That I have a friend who wants to be a minimalist, too! : )
5.) My father.
6.) To live in a country where I am not persecuted for my thoughts, beliefs, sex and gender.
7.) American Apparel. lol
8.) The changing of the seasons! That means I am still here to recognize the familiar face of fall.
9.) To know that if I were to die naturally, I have at LEAST another 40 years of life to: screw up, grow, change, adventure, correct my mistakes, apologize, sing, dance, jump, cry laughing, regret, attempt a handstand AND hear children laugh... before anything goes wrong.
10.) That I have a family that loves me.
11.) This sleep I'm about to get.
#goodNIGHT
AM THM #6
1.) That even though I didn't set my alarm last night, I still woke up an hour before I had to leave the house. (Trying to get that whole 'circadian clock' thing going. I hope to never have to use an alarm again!)
2.) Social Media
3.) Even though I missed my #QUIETtime this A.M. I still feel balanced out and clear. Meditation and taking a peaceful moment really pays off. I highly recommend it.
4.) KEEN shoes! OMG! They're so ugly but they're comfy!
5.) Rides to work versus taking public trans. #GOgreen
6.) That even though it didn't come out right this morning, I do have a head full of healthy and strong hair. : )
carpe diem!
2.) Social Media
3.) Even though I missed my #QUIETtime this A.M. I still feel balanced out and clear. Meditation and taking a peaceful moment really pays off. I highly recommend it.
4.) KEEN shoes! OMG! They're so ugly but they're comfy!
5.) Rides to work versus taking public trans. #GOgreen
6.) That even though it didn't come out right this morning, I do have a head full of healthy and strong hair. : )
carpe diem!
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
THM #5
1.) Being in love.
2.) Talking to @goRobotic on SKYPE and both of us smiling ear-to-ear because of the blessings (people and opportunities) going on in our lives.
3.) Having two legs to walk on, on my own.
4.) " -- 'Dear Summer' by Jay-Z
5.) hip-hop
6.) the "hood"
7.) KNOWING
8.) God's hand CLEARLY working in my life! : ) Still dumbfounded by what happened earlier today. A very clear message... not a cloud in that sky.
9.) My best friend Tiffani.
10.) This quote: "It is easier to stay out than get out." -- Mark Twain
11.) baby animals (make me smile)
12.) All of the visitors on their way to Chicago! : ) YAY!!
13.) "You coulda been anywhere in the world, but you're here with me I appreciate that..." -- Jay-Z
14.) Making new female friends! : ) There are a lot of dope women out here. Glad to know them.
15.) SLEEP.
#GOODnight
2.) Talking to @goRobotic on SKYPE and both of us smiling ear-to-ear because of the blessings (people and opportunities) going on in our lives.
3.) Having two legs to walk on, on my own.
4.) " -- 'Dear Summer' by Jay-Z
5.) hip-hop
6.) the "hood"
7.) KNOWING
8.) God's hand CLEARLY working in my life! : ) Still dumbfounded by what happened earlier today. A very clear message... not a cloud in that sky.
9.) My best friend Tiffani.
10.) This quote: "It is easier to stay out than get out." -- Mark Twain
11.) baby animals (make me smile)
12.) All of the visitors on their way to Chicago! : ) YAY!!
13.) "You coulda been anywhere in the world, but you're here with me I appreciate that..." -- Jay-Z
14.) Making new female friends! : ) There are a lot of dope women out here. Glad to know them.
15.) SLEEP.
#GOODnight
Monday, September 5, 2011
AM THM #5
1.) This quote: "And airports see it all the time Where someone's last goodbye blends in with someones sigh 'cause someone's coming home, in hand a single rose And that's the way, this wheel keeps workin' out" -- John Mayer ("Wheel", Heavier Things, 2003)
2.) Sammy Jo Alonzo. She's a cool chick who runs marathons. Good to see her accomplishments during her Mission: I'm Possible campaign with Nike. Up next? The Berlin Marathon. Check out her site to learn more about her, her business, her style and her goals... And she and her sister are very strong believers in Christ w/o ANY shame. There's something to be said about that--so I'm saying it.
3.) John Mayer PERIOD. I don't know how I would have made it through my teen years without him! And he was the first concert I ever went to (with my mom) for my 17th birthday.
4.) The fact that natural hair styling/maintenance is on a rise! I found Shea Moisture products at WALGREENS! No more time spent reading labels closely and walking out after an hour with NOTHING. Thanks everyone! Welcome to the new cool. The standards of beauty are shifting (even if only for a moment) and it wonderful to see. (I've not had a chemical in my head since 2006 and started my journey to natural hair when I was 9 years old--If you have questions, I've got answers on that.)
5.) Being an adult. Not only in years, but in my mind as well. I've always been 'goofy' in my behavior but mature in my character. This past week, I have had a chance to flex my grown-up muscles in a lot of aspect of my life BOLDLY.
6.) Blogs! From Xanga to Tumblr... we have come a mighty long way . . . wow.
7.) Communication.
8.) New gear from Nike!
9.) Buying gifts for people "just 'cause'".
10.) Getting flowers and sentimental notes from people. A vase of pink + white roses in my bedroom and a note on my bedside table? Everyday, please.
11.) Having this day off of work. Gonna wash clothes, go to the movies and cold CHILL. Shout out to all the #EMPLOYEES out there. Thanks!
12.) Epic Burger.
13.) Kilwin's ice cream in Lake Geneva, WI. -- The LAKE GENEVA MUD flavor.
14.) Rosetta Stone. (Not quite yet, but I'm probably gonna get it around Christmas or some time next year... SPRECHEN SIE DEUTSCH!? Ich sprechen!)
15.) Critical thought and educated discussion on theory and other big wordy ways of saying, "stuff".
16.) Romance.
17.) Having HOPE in a hopeless world.
18.) Taking people that I love to church with me.
19.) The ability to put laughter where sobbing should be.
20.) Star of Siam. Delicious AND cheap!
21.) Holding hands.
22.) Cute comments from people about us. : P
23.) Real peanut butter on real bread.
24.) The ability to love who I want to love. My family and friends encourage me to be who I am every day and that confidence transfers in to a million bitty parts of my life... One of those ways is that they always love and accept whoever I bring home (no one, really) no matter their color shape or size! : ) Thanks fam.
25.) Nike RIFTS.
26.) Seeing my bestie perform on an international stage. She is at her tipping point. I can just feel it. The best part is that she'll be home in a few weeks! WOOP WOOP!!!! : ) #PARTYtime.
27.) My journey. I am realizing that nothing in my life has been a set back, only set ups! I'm running the race that was set before ME and I don't see anyone in front of me and I'm in such good form, I'm too afraid to look back or side-to-side because it might throw me off... If I squint my eyes, like this: >_<, I think I can see the finish line in the distance! : )
happy labor day!
2.) Sammy Jo Alonzo. She's a cool chick who runs marathons. Good to see her accomplishments during her Mission: I'm Possible campaign with Nike. Up next? The Berlin Marathon. Check out her site to learn more about her, her business, her style and her goals... And she and her sister are very strong believers in Christ w/o ANY shame. There's something to be said about that--so I'm saying it.
3.) John Mayer PERIOD. I don't know how I would have made it through my teen years without him! And he was the first concert I ever went to (with my mom) for my 17th birthday.
4.) The fact that natural hair styling/maintenance is on a rise! I found Shea Moisture products at WALGREENS! No more time spent reading labels closely and walking out after an hour with NOTHING. Thanks everyone! Welcome to the new cool. The standards of beauty are shifting (even if only for a moment) and it wonderful to see. (I've not had a chemical in my head since 2006 and started my journey to natural hair when I was 9 years old--If you have questions, I've got answers on that.)
5.) Being an adult. Not only in years, but in my mind as well. I've always been 'goofy' in my behavior but mature in my character. This past week, I have had a chance to flex my grown-up muscles in a lot of aspect of my life BOLDLY.
6.) Blogs! From Xanga to Tumblr... we have come a mighty long way . . . wow.
7.) Communication.
8.) New gear from Nike!
9.) Buying gifts for people "just 'cause'".
10.) Getting flowers and sentimental notes from people. A vase of pink + white roses in my bedroom and a note on my bedside table? Everyday, please.
11.) Having this day off of work. Gonna wash clothes, go to the movies and cold CHILL. Shout out to all the #EMPLOYEES out there. Thanks!
12.) Epic Burger.
13.) Kilwin's ice cream in Lake Geneva, WI. -- The LAKE GENEVA MUD flavor.
14.) Rosetta Stone. (Not quite yet, but I'm probably gonna get it around Christmas or some time next year... SPRECHEN SIE DEUTSCH!? Ich sprechen!)
15.) Critical thought and educated discussion on theory and other big wordy ways of saying, "stuff".
16.) Romance.
17.) Having HOPE in a hopeless world.
18.) Taking people that I love to church with me.
19.) The ability to put laughter where sobbing should be.
20.) Star of Siam. Delicious AND cheap!
21.) Holding hands.
22.) Cute comments from people about us. : P
23.) Real peanut butter on real bread.
24.) The ability to love who I want to love. My family and friends encourage me to be who I am every day and that confidence transfers in to a million bitty parts of my life... One of those ways is that they always love and accept whoever I bring home (no one, really) no matter their color shape or size! : ) Thanks fam.
25.) Nike RIFTS.
26.) Seeing my bestie perform on an international stage. She is at her tipping point. I can just feel it. The best part is that she'll be home in a few weeks! WOOP WOOP!!!! : ) #PARTYtime.
27.) My journey. I am realizing that nothing in my life has been a set back, only set ups! I'm running the race that was set before ME and I don't see anyone in front of me and I'm in such good form, I'm too afraid to look back or side-to-side because it might throw me off... If I squint my eyes, like this: >_<, I think I can see the finish line in the distance! : )
happy labor day!
Friday, September 2, 2011
AM THM #4
1.) My childhood.
2.) The idea of location. (Home is where the rump rests!)
3.) Books.
4.) Beach.
5.) Jars of Clay and Casting Crowns (this AM especially).
6.) Simple summer dresses.
7.) That the first thing on my mind is hardly EVER looking a certain way. It's all about smiles and bright eyes, for me. But I do like a nice smokey eye erry now and then.
8.) Yogurt. When you don't feel like making breakfast, greek yogurt + granola always does the trick!
9.) Whoever invented the water bottle and reusable cap/bottle.
10.) Hope.
11.) Faith.
12.) Good anxiety and anticipation!
: )
AND WE'RE OFF!
2.) The idea of location. (Home is where the rump rests!)
3.) Books.
4.) Beach.
5.) Jars of Clay and Casting Crowns (this AM especially).
6.) Simple summer dresses.
7.) That the first thing on my mind is hardly EVER looking a certain way. It's all about smiles and bright eyes, for me. But I do like a nice smokey eye erry now and then.
8.) Yogurt. When you don't feel like making breakfast, greek yogurt + granola always does the trick!
9.) Whoever invented the water bottle and reusable cap/bottle.
10.) Hope.
11.) Faith.
12.) Good anxiety and anticipation!
: )
AND WE'RE OFF!
THM #4
1.) ditching plans and friends to play on the jungle gym.
2.) talking about Africa
3.) schmatzes : )
4.) Rosetta Stone deals!! Christmas is just months away! Start now! Nothing down $80 per month! ha ha
5.) going on my first official day-trip! : ) YAY!
6.) getting complimented on my vocals while singing after a night of drinking + partying. ; )
7.) THIS WEATHER! Thank you Lord!
8.) the new Rihanna song.
9.) wearing my hair natural. NO MUSS NO FUSS
10.) breezes
11.) signing up for my 3rd race in 2011! I resolved to run FOUR in the year. Maybe I'll do a Turkey Trot or something... HMMMMM.
xox -- all you need is love
2.) talking about Africa
3.) schmatzes : )
4.) Rosetta Stone deals!! Christmas is just months away! Start now! Nothing down $80 per month! ha ha
5.) going on my first official day-trip! : ) YAY!
6.) getting complimented on my vocals while singing after a night of drinking + partying. ; )
7.) THIS WEATHER! Thank you Lord!
8.) the new Rihanna song.
9.) wearing my hair natural. NO MUSS NO FUSS
10.) breezes
11.) signing up for my 3rd race in 2011! I resolved to run FOUR in the year. Maybe I'll do a Turkey Trot or something... HMMMMM.
xox -- all you need is love
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
AM THM #3
1.) Crickets. I would not have gotten any sleep if I wasn't able to zone out to the noise they make and stop focusing on my anxieties!
2.) The bible verse my mom sent me yesterday. -- 1 Peter 3:13-17
3.) Texting w/ my bestie (while I can't sleep) and she's in Korea having lunch and stuff. I think the whole timezone thing is COOL!
4.) Yellow Curry Chicken at Big Bowl!!!
5.) It's pay day!
6.) Having a God who wants and does take all of my anxieties away!
7.) Confidence.
8.) Having successful friends... I got DJs, pro-athletes, teachers, entrepreneurs, good husbands, moms, and the triumphant on my team... WATCHA NEED?
9.) The last few days of August.
10.) Rain. We had a bit of it late in the night last night. I know that that Earth feels refreshed!
11.) People that believe in vibes. I am a practicing Christian, but I do think that since we are OF the Earth, we are connected to it. I was tapping my wrists and stuff, and it felt like the string of a violin once you pull the bow across it... #VIBES I think it's cool that ppl believe it and that it causes them to be very cautious in their treatment of their fellow (wo)man.
12.) When people update their pics on BBM. : )
13.) A good quote! I like the short, popular, ones, but I love the people who quote from books by their favorite authors or the ones that are a nice li'l paragraph and set your mind right for the rest of the day!
14.) Workout gear! I'm going to buy some workout tights tonight. In between gigs.
15.) Having dreams about people that I know and then remembering them to share and afterward saying: "I WONDER WHAT THAT MEANS!"
16.) My sister. She's like my daughter or something, lol... I would give the world to her (and my mom + dad) if I could. She's my little princess! : )
17.) CONVERSE CHUCK TAYLORS! I have a plan to buy a pair and keep them clean. I love to dirty them up and really break 'em in, but I'd like to keep a pair on standby for fancier days (?) lol.
18.) Taking less than an hour to get ready for work. Leaves room for surfing the web, quiet time, busting moves to my A.M. playlist and a good hearty breakfast.
19.) Rick Warren, Tony Evans, Jeff Ford and Chip Ingram. I listen to their devotions, lectures, bible studies at work (ALL DAY--besides Vocalo's Morning Amp feat. my friend Brian Babylon) and they have really helped my spiritual growth since last year. I'll post links another time. Look in to it!
20.) Being able to leave your windows up/open ALL DAY! Your room smells so fresh + it means it didn't rain!
21.) And I'm giving future thanks for accomplishing the goals I have been writing down over the past few days. I am going to feel so proud during the process and SUPER PROUD once I reach my goals!
22.) Understanding that goals are important, but being and acting in the NOW are the stepping stones to get you there! I JUST LEARNED THAT IN 2011!
23.) Telling people I feel GREAT and meaning it. Especially when I'm not feeling great, but SAYING it makes me feel it and I flash a BIG SMILE!
"You must do the thing you think you cannot do." - Eleanor Roosevelt
2.) The bible verse my mom sent me yesterday. -- 1 Peter 3:13-17
3.) Texting w/ my bestie (while I can't sleep) and she's in Korea having lunch and stuff. I think the whole timezone thing is COOL!
4.) Yellow Curry Chicken at Big Bowl!!!
5.) It's pay day!
6.) Having a God who wants and does take all of my anxieties away!
7.) Confidence.
8.) Having successful friends... I got DJs, pro-athletes, teachers, entrepreneurs, good husbands, moms, and the triumphant on my team... WATCHA NEED?
9.) The last few days of August.
10.) Rain. We had a bit of it late in the night last night. I know that that Earth feels refreshed!
11.) People that believe in vibes. I am a practicing Christian, but I do think that since we are OF the Earth, we are connected to it. I was tapping my wrists and stuff, and it felt like the string of a violin once you pull the bow across it... #VIBES I think it's cool that ppl believe it and that it causes them to be very cautious in their treatment of their fellow (wo)man.
12.) When people update their pics on BBM. : )
13.) A good quote! I like the short, popular, ones, but I love the people who quote from books by their favorite authors or the ones that are a nice li'l paragraph and set your mind right for the rest of the day!
14.) Workout gear! I'm going to buy some workout tights tonight. In between gigs.
15.) Having dreams about people that I know and then remembering them to share and afterward saying: "I WONDER WHAT THAT MEANS!"
16.) My sister. She's like my daughter or something, lol... I would give the world to her (and my mom + dad) if I could. She's my little princess! : )
17.) CONVERSE CHUCK TAYLORS! I have a plan to buy a pair and keep them clean. I love to dirty them up and really break 'em in, but I'd like to keep a pair on standby for fancier days (?) lol.
18.) Taking less than an hour to get ready for work. Leaves room for surfing the web, quiet time, busting moves to my A.M. playlist and a good hearty breakfast.
19.) Rick Warren, Tony Evans, Jeff Ford and Chip Ingram. I listen to their devotions, lectures, bible studies at work (ALL DAY--besides Vocalo's Morning Amp feat. my friend Brian Babylon) and they have really helped my spiritual growth since last year. I'll post links another time. Look in to it!
20.) Being able to leave your windows up/open ALL DAY! Your room smells so fresh + it means it didn't rain!
21.) And I'm giving future thanks for accomplishing the goals I have been writing down over the past few days. I am going to feel so proud during the process and SUPER PROUD once I reach my goals!
22.) Understanding that goals are important, but being and acting in the NOW are the stepping stones to get you there! I JUST LEARNED THAT IN 2011!
23.) Telling people I feel GREAT and meaning it. Especially when I'm not feeling great, but SAYING it makes me feel it and I flash a BIG SMILE!
"You must do the thing you think you cannot do." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
THM #3
1.) Realizing that no matter the amount of creativity in my blood, I am just not a huge fan of contemporary art... FOR FREE thanks to MCA Free Community Tuesdays!
2.) Doing things my way.
3.) People walking past us yelling, "YOU SHOULD MARRY HER!" hehe : )
4.) Running in to old, cool friends.
5.) Reading books that are full of good and useful information.
6.) Training my mind, body and spirit to act as one unit. Self-sabotage is SO 2006.
7.) Clear communication between myself and the ones I love.
8.) Watching my bestie do transactions in hotel lobbies feeling like I'm doing a drug bust or something, trying to pinpoint the "perp" . . . and all she's doing is buying a Kindle from someone off of Craig's List. LOL!!
9.) Fist bumping from downtown Chicago all the way to the South Side.
10.) Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
11.) Imagining what the day trip to Lake Geneva, WI will be like... : ) Lots of sun, clear blue skies and cool breezes are the only three things allowed!
12.) Pillow lips.
13.) Realizing that other people are crazy--JUST LIKE YOU!! : ) Community is what it's all about. haha
14.) The future plans of having Indian food with @ChelseaLanvin and dining outdoors with my girl, @KellyVickroy. Before September 23rd.
15.) Being happy. I know a lot of people who can't see past their current situation or even recognize the part that the bad plays in the big picture! I wish everyone could feel like me (on 99% of days)... the other 1%, I think people could learn a lot about what it takes to stay sane on days like those.
16.) I LOVE 'Blue Collar' workers... the foundation of our society and WAY more funny than the corporate guys in the offices. smh
17.) My blue jacket from Chico's.
18.) BC Girls! : ) [I'M BABY SPICE]
19.) Getting 6+ hours of sleep at night!
20.) The journey!
#GOODnight
2.) Doing things my way.
3.) People walking past us yelling, "YOU SHOULD MARRY HER!" hehe : )
4.) Running in to old, cool friends.
5.) Reading books that are full of good and useful information.
6.) Training my mind, body and spirit to act as one unit. Self-sabotage is SO 2006.
7.) Clear communication between myself and the ones I love.
8.) Watching my bestie do transactions in hotel lobbies feeling like I'm doing a drug bust or something, trying to pinpoint the "perp" . . . and all she's doing is buying a Kindle from someone off of Craig's List. LOL!!
9.) Fist bumping from downtown Chicago all the way to the South Side.
10.) Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
11.) Imagining what the day trip to Lake Geneva, WI will be like... : ) Lots of sun, clear blue skies and cool breezes are the only three things allowed!
12.) Pillow lips.
13.) Realizing that other people are crazy--JUST LIKE YOU!! : ) Community is what it's all about. haha
14.) The future plans of having Indian food with @ChelseaLanvin and dining outdoors with my girl, @KellyVickroy. Before September 23rd.
15.) Being happy. I know a lot of people who can't see past their current situation or even recognize the part that the bad plays in the big picture! I wish everyone could feel like me (on 99% of days)... the other 1%, I think people could learn a lot about what it takes to stay sane on days like those.
16.) I LOVE 'Blue Collar' workers... the foundation of our society and WAY more funny than the corporate guys in the offices. smh
17.) My blue jacket from Chico's.
18.) BC Girls! : ) [I'M BABY SPICE]
19.) Getting 6+ hours of sleep at night!
20.) The journey!
#GOODnight
AM THM #2
1.) Another day.
2.) Special guests (at events or in my home).
3.) Not having a full-time job so I get to enjoy the final days of summer to the FULLEST.
4.) God and what he's doing in my life and the life of the ones I love.
5.) Time. It's my best friend and worst enemy... It's almost like a best friend or sibling!
6.) Nat King Cole
7.) @jazzsade's Tumblr and her "Artist A Day" posts. #LOVEthose
8.) SMILING : )
9.) Schmatz's from the ones I love.
10.) Praying with my mom.
11.) My health. It's my wealth.
12.) My successes, so far.
13.) SPACE. I love that I have literal space, and that the ppl I love give it to me. They know me well.
14.) Tumblr.
15.) SALADS! So refreshing after long weekends of fast food! haha
16.) Money. I have just enough to do what I need and some of what I want.
17.) Lake Geneva Youth Camp!
18.) Circle Y Ranch!
19.) "Stay Away" camp, period! It's good for kids... and parents.
20.) Cal Harbor breakfast spot. There's something about greasy spoons that just makes me smile!
21.) Those skinny suede hangers. They make each piece of my wardrobe look like $100,000!
22.) : ) [emoticons]
23.) Public transportation. I try to be as #GREEN as can be!
24.) Diamonds... I don't have any (anymore), but I'm a sucker for an uncut, vintage, and/or beautifully set stone.
25.) My optimism. I remember the days that I didn't have even a flicker of hope! I'm so grateful to have good feelings again.
: )
2.) Special guests (at events or in my home).
3.) Not having a full-time job so I get to enjoy the final days of summer to the FULLEST.
4.) God and what he's doing in my life and the life of the ones I love.
5.) Time. It's my best friend and worst enemy... It's almost like a best friend or sibling!
6.) Nat King Cole
7.) @jazzsade's Tumblr and her "Artist A Day" posts. #LOVEthose
8.) SMILING : )
9.) Schmatz's from the ones I love.
10.) Praying with my mom.
11.) My health. It's my wealth.
12.) My successes, so far.
13.) SPACE. I love that I have literal space, and that the ppl I love give it to me. They know me well.
14.) Tumblr.
15.) SALADS! So refreshing after long weekends of fast food! haha
16.) Money. I have just enough to do what I need and some of what I want.
17.) Lake Geneva Youth Camp!
18.) Circle Y Ranch!
19.) "Stay Away" camp, period! It's good for kids... and parents.
20.) Cal Harbor breakfast spot. There's something about greasy spoons that just makes me smile!
21.) Those skinny suede hangers. They make each piece of my wardrobe look like $100,000!
22.) : ) [emoticons]
23.) Public transportation. I try to be as #GREEN as can be!
24.) Diamonds... I don't have any (anymore), but I'm a sucker for an uncut, vintage, and/or beautifully set stone.
25.) My optimism. I remember the days that I didn't have even a flicker of hope! I'm so grateful to have good feelings again.
: )
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
THM #2
1.) Boys.
2.) Random visits from family friends.
3.) Text messages from people you care about.
4.) Hearing about people getting engaged! : D
5.) Anticipating visits from V.I.P. It's like you're walking around in a fantasy 24/7!
6.) Making vacation plans.
7.) Starting new things.
8.) Realizing that your "random plans" actually fall directly in line with your big picture!
9.) Watching your mom dance to songs from her heyday!
10.) Being able to love people despite . . . anything, really.
2.) Random visits from family friends.
3.) Text messages from people you care about.
4.) Hearing about people getting engaged! : D
5.) Anticipating visits from V.I.P. It's like you're walking around in a fantasy 24/7!
6.) Making vacation plans.
7.) Starting new things.
8.) Realizing that your "random plans" actually fall directly in line with your big picture!
9.) Watching your mom dance to songs from her heyday!
10.) Being able to love people despite . . . anything, really.
AM THM #1
1.) Having stamps in my passport (and the ones to come).
2.) Having the opportunity to take a new passport picture in a few years (smh, the one I have now is TURRIBLE).
3.) #QUIETtime
4.) My laptop. It's a portal to a whole new world.
5.) CrazySexyLife.com -- Learned about it yesterday and I can already tell that it will be a huge blessing and help to my health journey.
6.) Two legs that (although my knee has been hurting) help get me from point 'A' to point 'B' without challenging my body, but working in congruence with it.
7.) This quote: "I'd rather be grateful for what I have than pray and ask for what I don't." It's all about being CONTENT. I'm learning that, and I love it!
8.) India.Arie's music
9.) Vegetables!
10.) The Bible. It helps me through so many tough situations . . . a true blessing to myself and my brothers & sisters in Christ.
: )
2.) Having the opportunity to take a new passport picture in a few years (smh, the one I have now is TURRIBLE).
3.) #QUIETtime
4.) My laptop. It's a portal to a whole new world.
5.) CrazySexyLife.com -- Learned about it yesterday and I can already tell that it will be a huge blessing and help to my health journey.
6.) Two legs that (although my knee has been hurting) help get me from point 'A' to point 'B' without challenging my body, but working in congruence with it.
7.) This quote: "I'd rather be grateful for what I have than pray and ask for what I don't." It's all about being CONTENT. I'm learning that, and I love it!
8.) India.Arie's music
9.) Vegetables!
10.) The Bible. It helps me through so many tough situations . . . a true blessing to myself and my brothers & sisters in Christ.
: )
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
THM #1
1.) My mom for always being there for me.
2.) The look my dad and I gave each other after the commercial for toilet paper covers.
3.) My background in athletics.
4.) One of my best guy friends, Wesley. He's such an inspiration to me.
5.) The internet.
6.) Adding a new skill to my repertoire starting tomorrow! : )
7.) Meditation
8.) L'Occitane Verbana shower gel + body lotion
9.) Getting back to my normal schedule.
10.) All of the sleep I am going to get tonight!
POW!! : )
2.) The look my dad and I gave each other after the commercial for toilet paper covers.
3.) My background in athletics.
4.) One of my best guy friends, Wesley. He's such an inspiration to me.
5.) The internet.
6.) Adding a new skill to my repertoire starting tomorrow! : )
7.) Meditation
8.) L'Occitane Verbana shower gel + body lotion
9.) Getting back to my normal schedule.
10.) All of the sleep I am going to get tonight!
POW!! : )
EUREKA!
I know what I am going to do with this blog from now on. *Do'h!* Why didn't I think of this before?
But the title of this blog is PERFECT already! : )
Honorable Mention (noun): 1. Having exceptional merit though not winning the top honor or prize. 2. An official recognition of merit.
Everyday, in the world news, WONDERFUL things happen (both good and bad), and although they both affect and effect me and people/things around me, the status of my surroundings do not always equal the status of my mind, or Facebook page for that matter.
I will come here as often as possible to simply give thanks to all of the things they did not make it to the international main stage, they made an impact in my life. The posts might be wordy, or it could be a picture, but be assured that it will get the job done.
I wanted this blog to be so many things (see previous posts in the archives), things that were a great reflection of who I am as a person and my SUPER DOPE taste, but I was trying to do it so that it could potentially become this wonderful "thing", that in all honestly, I would not want to do for the rest of my life...
SO!
Whatever I choose, I'm going to stay #TRUE to #ME.
: )
How refreshing and trill.
But the title of this blog is PERFECT already! : )
Honorable Mention (noun): 1. Having exceptional merit though not winning the top honor or prize. 2. An official recognition of merit.
Everyday, in the world news, WONDERFUL things happen (both good and bad), and although they both affect and effect me and people/things around me, the status of my surroundings do not always equal the status of my mind, or Facebook page for that matter.
I will come here as often as possible to simply give thanks to all of the things they did not make it to the international main stage, they made an impact in my life. The posts might be wordy, or it could be a picture, but be assured that it will get the job done.
I wanted this blog to be so many things (see previous posts in the archives), things that were a great reflection of who I am as a person and my SUPER DOPE taste, but I was trying to do it so that it could potentially become this wonderful "thing", that in all honestly, I would not want to do for the rest of my life...
SO!
Whatever I choose, I'm going to stay #TRUE to #ME.
: )
How refreshing and trill.
Love,
Melissa
Melissa
Monday, February 7, 2011
5 Things to Do to Keep the Weight Off
*I hate that I can't remember basic grammatical rules. I swear I want to type and re-type the title to this because I think that the to's should/shouldn't be capitalized or whatever... DAMN YOU, CPS!
1.) STAY ENCOURAGED -- The sites and mags don't title their articles "How to Beat the Winter Workout Blues" for no reason. It gets annoying and boring. I was watching a clip reel of Alicia Marie (a fitness model, @ALICIAMARIEBODY) and on a show she told a boy, (something like) "There will be more days that you don't want to workout than days that you do!" Keep reminding yourself the reasons why you want to get and stay slim and don't let your conscience beat you before an actual beat down comes--which will probably never happen. Change up your workout, try new classes, borrow a recipe, begin to intentionally change your speech from 'novice' to 'familiar' (and then work on going from 'familiar' to 'well versed' and so on... Do you see how that works?)
2.) USE SOCIAL MEDIA -- Be open and as honest, as you are comfortable with, about your weight loss journey. Talk about new workouts you are trying/want to try, tell people about a new recipe or how easy something that seemed difficult was. Don't beat yourself up though. Words like "I feel fat," and "I'm such a fat ugly slob," only make people think that you have a REALLY bad self-image problem and that you aren't serious about your goals. You will be surprised how many people will encourage you when you when you seriously do not have an ounce of motivation within you. At the same time, you will encourage a lot of people to keep on their own track to slim, healthy sexiness! AND YOU CAN GET FREE ADVICE FROM CELEBRITY TRAINERS!! [But don't tell anybody I told you...that's just a heads up between US here, at THM.)
3.) DON'T FREAK PEOPLE OUT! -- Don't make this one part of your life, your ENTIRE life. There is no reason you should be on a cleanse every week (w/o your physicians advice) and popping pills at dinner tables before you drink a glass of water and then another between every bite. People will be afraid for you and thus they will begin to speak negatively about your goals (consciously or unconsciously). If you MUST explain to people why/how you plan to go about your weight loss, make it logical. I was telling people how much weight I wanted to lose but it wasn't until I told them how much I had actually gained/how dangerously close I was to being over weight that they began to say: "Wow. Then this whole health thing is good for you." Another fun thing I do now, that I didn't do in the beginning when talking numbers, rather than say, "I HAVE 30 LBS LEFT!" Say things like: "I can't fit my jeans anymore!" Or, "I'm just 1 pound away from the 5 lbs I set to lose this month." These are softer blows to the head but blows indeed.
4.) BUT DO, FREAK THEM OUT! (WITHIN REASON) -- If your friends invite you out for drink every 10 seconds, and you usually are already at the bar before they get the words out of their mouth... say 'no' sometimes. Or maybe, you'll go to a fast-food restaurant, go ahead and ask them to "hold the mayo, cut it in half and make a fresh batch of fries w/ no salt, please." These things will attract enough attention that your close social network will notice and honor the fact that you are working at being a healthier person. They might even order the same thing or, check first to see how you feel about certain unhealthy activities before even getting too excited about you being there. Naturally, people don't like too much change so, expect a lot of unfamiliar behavior from even your closest friends and family. They will get used to it as you get used to it but they are hoping that you will join them for the Friday night fish fries every week like you used to. Healthy, well informed decisions are easily recognized so, keep growing and be confident in all of your choices. They HAVE to honor that.
5.) MAKE IT A LIFESTYLE -- Another very typical statement that I am learning is true. Don't just workout or don't just eat healthy. Sleep more, party less, and adjust the other things accordingly. My goal last month was to have a fruit or a vegetable at EVERY meal and snack. Find a fitness AND nutrition guru who speaks your language and take their word for it. (Check their credentials and use you reason though.) I like the Tone It Up girls and Jeanette Jenkins. By checking out their stuff, following them on Twitter and Liking their brands on Facebook, I've been introduced to new and interesting people in the fitness world because of it. NOW rather than seeing people talking about smoking weed at 4:20 (I don't smoke weed.) I see people saying, "TRY 200 PUSH-UPS BEFORE BED!" and "BREATHE DEEP." I am a very self-disciplined person when it comes to the things that I really want, but when it comes to doing painful things like exercise and budgeting, I honestly rely on my friends who are at the point I want to get to, and great, reliable sources that I can access any time or any where. Keep healthy snacks at your desk or put water bottles in all of the places you spend most of your time. You made socializing a part of your lifestyle, you made shopping a part of your lifestyle, and you even made morning meetings a part of your lifestyle... All of these things are important but are NOT as important as a healthy and sound, mind and body. Make it a part of your lifestyle.
**Just in case someone decides to jump off of a bridge after reading this, I want to let the internet and readers know that I am not a certified nutritionist or fitness trainer. This is all my own opinion and coming from my own experiences. I encourage you to talk to such people, especially doctors and/or nutritionists and/or psychologists about whatever type of journey you are preparing (or are already on) for.
xoxo!
Melissa
1.) STAY ENCOURAGED -- The sites and mags don't title their articles "How to Beat the Winter Workout Blues" for no reason. It gets annoying and boring. I was watching a clip reel of Alicia Marie (a fitness model, @ALICIAMARIEBODY) and on a show she told a boy, (something like) "There will be more days that you don't want to workout than days that you do!" Keep reminding yourself the reasons why you want to get and stay slim and don't let your conscience beat you before an actual beat down comes--which will probably never happen. Change up your workout, try new classes, borrow a recipe, begin to intentionally change your speech from 'novice' to 'familiar' (and then work on going from 'familiar' to 'well versed' and so on... Do you see how that works?)
2.) USE SOCIAL MEDIA -- Be open and as honest, as you are comfortable with, about your weight loss journey. Talk about new workouts you are trying/want to try, tell people about a new recipe or how easy something that seemed difficult was. Don't beat yourself up though. Words like "I feel fat," and "I'm such a fat ugly slob," only make people think that you have a REALLY bad self-image problem and that you aren't serious about your goals. You will be surprised how many people will encourage you when you when you seriously do not have an ounce of motivation within you. At the same time, you will encourage a lot of people to keep on their own track to slim, healthy sexiness! AND YOU CAN GET FREE ADVICE FROM CELEBRITY TRAINERS!! [But don't tell anybody I told you...that's just a heads up between US here, at THM.)
3.) DON'T FREAK PEOPLE OUT! -- Don't make this one part of your life, your ENTIRE life. There is no reason you should be on a cleanse every week (w/o your physicians advice) and popping pills at dinner tables before you drink a glass of water and then another between every bite. People will be afraid for you and thus they will begin to speak negatively about your goals (consciously or unconsciously). If you MUST explain to people why/how you plan to go about your weight loss, make it logical. I was telling people how much weight I wanted to lose but it wasn't until I told them how much I had actually gained/how dangerously close I was to being over weight that they began to say: "Wow. Then this whole health thing is good for you." Another fun thing I do now, that I didn't do in the beginning when talking numbers, rather than say, "I HAVE 30 LBS LEFT!" Say things like: "I can't fit my jeans anymore!" Or, "I'm just 1 pound away from the 5 lbs I set to lose this month." These are softer blows to the head but blows indeed.
4.) BUT DO, FREAK THEM OUT! (WITHIN REASON) -- If your friends invite you out for drink every 10 seconds, and you usually are already at the bar before they get the words out of their mouth... say 'no' sometimes. Or maybe, you'll go to a fast-food restaurant, go ahead and ask them to "hold the mayo, cut it in half and make a fresh batch of fries w/ no salt, please." These things will attract enough attention that your close social network will notice and honor the fact that you are working at being a healthier person. They might even order the same thing or, check first to see how you feel about certain unhealthy activities before even getting too excited about you being there. Naturally, people don't like too much change so, expect a lot of unfamiliar behavior from even your closest friends and family. They will get used to it as you get used to it but they are hoping that you will join them for the Friday night fish fries every week like you used to. Healthy, well informed decisions are easily recognized so, keep growing and be confident in all of your choices. They HAVE to honor that.
5.) MAKE IT A LIFESTYLE -- Another very typical statement that I am learning is true. Don't just workout or don't just eat healthy. Sleep more, party less, and adjust the other things accordingly. My goal last month was to have a fruit or a vegetable at EVERY meal and snack. Find a fitness AND nutrition guru who speaks your language and take their word for it. (Check their credentials and use you reason though.) I like the Tone It Up girls and Jeanette Jenkins. By checking out their stuff, following them on Twitter and Liking their brands on Facebook, I've been introduced to new and interesting people in the fitness world because of it. NOW rather than seeing people talking about smoking weed at 4:20 (I don't smoke weed.) I see people saying, "TRY 200 PUSH-UPS BEFORE BED!" and "BREATHE DEEP." I am a very self-disciplined person when it comes to the things that I really want, but when it comes to doing painful things like exercise and budgeting, I honestly rely on my friends who are at the point I want to get to, and great, reliable sources that I can access any time or any where. Keep healthy snacks at your desk or put water bottles in all of the places you spend most of your time. You made socializing a part of your lifestyle, you made shopping a part of your lifestyle, and you even made morning meetings a part of your lifestyle... All of these things are important but are NOT as important as a healthy and sound, mind and body. Make it a part of your lifestyle.
**Just in case someone decides to jump off of a bridge after reading this, I want to let the internet and readers know that I am not a certified nutritionist or fitness trainer. This is all my own opinion and coming from my own experiences. I encourage you to talk to such people, especially doctors and/or nutritionists and/or psychologists about whatever type of journey you are preparing (or are already on) for.
xoxo!
Melissa
Thursday, January 27, 2011
11 Qualifications for a GOOD MATE.
I woke up this morning and started "ranting" on Twitter. "Love" is pretty much the running theme in my life right now. People asking me for advice, me asking people for advice... I am learning so much and am so happy for the people working hard at their relationships, leaving poisonous ones and mostly, the people who are realizing who they are themselves within or without a relationship altogether.
The rant began after I looked at some pictures of one of my guy friends and his girlfriend of, about two years (+?), and I was just so happy for him because I remember him saying how hard it was to find a good woman and that he ultimately wanted that healthy relationship some day. I think that part of the realization of the 11 Qualifications came from watching an episode of The Millionaire Matchmaker last night. Patti Stanger had a female client, in her late 30s/early 40s, who is an über successful caterer in New York who had a "list" and control issues. Stanger's client sounds like a LOT of my friends and seeing that episode mixed with the success my friend has found in love, switched on the light bulb in my head.
I realized that YES, you SHOULD have some qualifications but, you should not have an excuse. Lists cripple your success in love. All it is, is a bunch of words that you count on in case you don't want to admit that you just aren't physically attracted to a person (or "mentally stimulated" for the phonies who act like sexual attraction isn't important to them). So many times my girls will say: "He just didn't match w/ my list." Did he not match? Or did it just not workout, because you became turned off somehow, so you're blaming it on an 8.5"x11" sheet of wood chips? He didn't align with the list? Or are you whack? He wasn't right because of the list? Or did you just go against your intuition because you knew better than to get involved with his ass?
BUT . . . I dont' want to lose your attention (for those who are actually reading this post and didn't skip to the list) so I will get right to it. Here are 11 YES or NO questions that you can apply to potential/current mates and I honestly feel like, if you can't say 'yes' to them all, you should just quit...
1.) Are they HEALTHY? -- If you look at them, do they look or behave [as in, do drugs; including cigarettes and excess drinking or those creepy mannerisms/ticks/obsessions] like a drug addict? If they do . . . that's not it.
2.) Are the generally attractive? -- Not, "easy on the eyes", I'm saying, when you look at them, do they look good to you. Not, "adonis fine", either. [Which they could be/become to you, but you know what I'm sayin'.]
3.) Could they survive without you? -- Are you the center of their universe? You don't want to be that. Are you important to them? AS important as work/play/friends/family? IT'S A GO!
4.) Do they have the sense of humor you like? -- If they can't make you laugh... [sigh] even if racist jokes are your "thing" . . . it just won't work. They have to make you laugh . . . hard and often.
5.) Do they believe in something bigger than them? -- I suggest that you two are "of the same yolk". If you're Christian he/she should be Christian. Hindu to Hindu, etc. There was a case in Chicago about a Catholic/Jewish couple who got a divorce and ended up suing one another over their baby daughters religious practices. And MORE than that, a family that prays together, stays together.
6.) Do they thrive in good AND bad times? -- Do they like . . . commit suicide EVERY TIME they're struggling? Do they ignore you when things are going well for them? That's wishy washy behavior. You need stability to build a foundation.
7.) Do they treat you & your time with respect? -- I can't tell you what that should look or feel like, only your intuition can gauge that for you.
8.) Are you sexually attracted to them (even after you have sex)? -- Even if you're saving yourself for marriage, you should "feel" a certain way about your mate. If you're not, you should feel that certain thing too. But most importantly, AFTER you actually have sex, you should still ALWAYS feel that, no matter what, it shouldn't be a CHORE to get your groove on. It also shouldn't need to be a round table discussion between your heart, spirit, genitals, brain and conscience [saying 'yes' or 'no'] EVERY TIME.
9.) Do they challenge you to become better? -- Directly or indirectly. We don't want drill sergeants but, you do want someone who sends you links that are good for your career/ideas or is constantly teaching you something new. Even a little healthy competition is good.
10.) Are they an addition to your life? (family, friends, business... even if they move you from a place, is it a smooth transition UP?). -- Do they fit in? If they do stand out, is it LIKE a sore thumb? Or are they an actual pain in the ass? Your friends don't have to love them but, they shouldn't have the feeling that they need to TOLERATE them for your sake. Your mom and dad need to approve of their character. Looks, sexuality, income, all that can be changed [some people might disagree w/ the sexuality part but, you gotta admit, it can be masked if you want it to be] and I hope your parents are more interested in their heart than the stupid things. The stereotype that in-laws and husbands/wives don't get along does not have to be true for you...but they don't need to be best friends. AND if they do "remove" you from a group of people, it should always be up, it should NEVER be against your will and it should be to a safer place. Otherwise, they are insane and might murder you or something.
11.) Do you guys spend money alike? If yes, great. If no, can you two work together towards the goal to find a balance? -- Finances are the #1 reason why people get divorced (poor AND rich people).* Can you get used to someone who spends frivolously (or not at all)? Is it okay if he buys himself a new car but won't even pay for your dinner? Is her first thought to sacrifice herself and give all of her money to friends/family okay with you? If not, can you two exist "separately" in that institution? Or can you work together to teach each other how to be more flexible here and there (which is a better idea)?
And I just added one while I was typing...
12.) Can you COMMUNICATE? Can you speak your mind without any fear that they will smack you? Can you listen to an opinion without preparing your rebuttal the WHOLE time they're pouring their heart out? Can you actually take a bit of their advice and your own and apply it to your life? Or, can you both talk, in one sitting, and stand up knowing that you've resolved the issue? Even if your style is to yell and be dramatic or maybe you become silent in heated situations... Can you two communicate, that's the point.
The end.
It got a little lengthy so I'll stop here. : )
HAVE A GOOD DAY!
*I heard that $ is the biggest reason ppl divorce on Moody radio. MOODY NEVA LIES! Reliable sources people!
The rant began after I looked at some pictures of one of my guy friends and his girlfriend of, about two years (+?), and I was just so happy for him because I remember him saying how hard it was to find a good woman and that he ultimately wanted that healthy relationship some day. I think that part of the realization of the 11 Qualifications came from watching an episode of The Millionaire Matchmaker last night. Patti Stanger had a female client, in her late 30s/early 40s, who is an über successful caterer in New York who had a "list" and control issues. Stanger's client sounds like a LOT of my friends and seeing that episode mixed with the success my friend has found in love, switched on the light bulb in my head.
I realized that YES, you SHOULD have some qualifications but, you should not have an excuse. Lists cripple your success in love. All it is, is a bunch of words that you count on in case you don't want to admit that you just aren't physically attracted to a person (or "mentally stimulated" for the phonies who act like sexual attraction isn't important to them). So many times my girls will say: "He just didn't match w/ my list." Did he not match? Or did it just not workout, because you became turned off somehow, so you're blaming it on an 8.5"x11" sheet of wood chips? He didn't align with the list? Or are you whack? He wasn't right because of the list? Or did you just go against your intuition because you knew better than to get involved with his ass?
BUT . . . I dont' want to lose your attention (for those who are actually reading this post and didn't skip to the list) so I will get right to it. Here are 11 YES or NO questions that you can apply to potential/current mates and I honestly feel like, if you can't say 'yes' to them all, you should just quit...
1.) Are they HEALTHY? -- If you look at them, do they look or behave [as in, do drugs; including cigarettes and excess drinking or those creepy mannerisms/ticks/obsessions] like a drug addict? If they do . . . that's not it.
2.) Are the generally attractive? -- Not, "easy on the eyes", I'm saying, when you look at them, do they look good to you. Not, "adonis fine", either. [Which they could be/become to you, but you know what I'm sayin'.]
3.) Could they survive without you? -- Are you the center of their universe? You don't want to be that. Are you important to them? AS important as work/play/friends/family? IT'S A GO!
4.) Do they have the sense of humor you like? -- If they can't make you laugh... [sigh] even if racist jokes are your "thing" . . . it just won't work. They have to make you laugh . . . hard and often.
5.) Do they believe in something bigger than them? -- I suggest that you two are "of the same yolk". If you're Christian he/she should be Christian. Hindu to Hindu, etc. There was a case in Chicago about a Catholic/Jewish couple who got a divorce and ended up suing one another over their baby daughters religious practices. And MORE than that, a family that prays together, stays together.
6.) Do they thrive in good AND bad times? -- Do they like . . . commit suicide EVERY TIME they're struggling? Do they ignore you when things are going well for them? That's wishy washy behavior. You need stability to build a foundation.
7.) Do they treat you & your time with respect? -- I can't tell you what that should look or feel like, only your intuition can gauge that for you.
8.) Are you sexually attracted to them (even after you have sex)? -- Even if you're saving yourself for marriage, you should "feel" a certain way about your mate. If you're not, you should feel that certain thing too. But most importantly, AFTER you actually have sex, you should still ALWAYS feel that, no matter what, it shouldn't be a CHORE to get your groove on. It also shouldn't need to be a round table discussion between your heart, spirit, genitals, brain and conscience [saying 'yes' or 'no'] EVERY TIME.
9.) Do they challenge you to become better? -- Directly or indirectly. We don't want drill sergeants but, you do want someone who sends you links that are good for your career/ideas or is constantly teaching you something new. Even a little healthy competition is good.
10.) Are they an addition to your life? (family, friends, business... even if they move you from a place, is it a smooth transition UP?). -- Do they fit in? If they do stand out, is it LIKE a sore thumb? Or are they an actual pain in the ass? Your friends don't have to love them but, they shouldn't have the feeling that they need to TOLERATE them for your sake. Your mom and dad need to approve of their character. Looks, sexuality, income, all that can be changed [some people might disagree w/ the sexuality part but, you gotta admit, it can be masked if you want it to be] and I hope your parents are more interested in their heart than the stupid things. The stereotype that in-laws and husbands/wives don't get along does not have to be true for you...but they don't need to be best friends. AND if they do "remove" you from a group of people, it should always be up, it should NEVER be against your will and it should be to a safer place. Otherwise, they are insane and might murder you or something.
11.) Do you guys spend money alike? If yes, great. If no, can you two work together towards the goal to find a balance? -- Finances are the #1 reason why people get divorced (poor AND rich people).* Can you get used to someone who spends frivolously (or not at all)? Is it okay if he buys himself a new car but won't even pay for your dinner? Is her first thought to sacrifice herself and give all of her money to friends/family okay with you? If not, can you two exist "separately" in that institution? Or can you work together to teach each other how to be more flexible here and there (which is a better idea)?
And I just added one while I was typing...
12.) Can you COMMUNICATE? Can you speak your mind without any fear that they will smack you? Can you listen to an opinion without preparing your rebuttal the WHOLE time they're pouring their heart out? Can you actually take a bit of their advice and your own and apply it to your life? Or, can you both talk, in one sitting, and stand up knowing that you've resolved the issue? Even if your style is to yell and be dramatic or maybe you become silent in heated situations... Can you two communicate, that's the point.
The end.
It got a little lengthy so I'll stop here. : )
HAVE A GOOD DAY!
*I heard that $ is the biggest reason ppl divorce on Moody radio. MOODY NEVA LIES! Reliable sources people!
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